Your trigger isn't real....

Triggers are a part of life for some of us...we have a past traumatic stress that haunts us and for the most part we learn to cope, live and move on...then out of the blue, smack bang! Something will set us off. 

It can literally send us so far back into panic mode that we lose all sense of reality back into a world that's not real anymore and it can be so easy to become lost in that memory.
This is a trigger!

But a trigger is not the thing that happened; it is just that, a memory. Nothing more!
For most of us the initial trauma is usually something that was out of our control & the mental scars are something we have to learn to deal with.
Our triggers however only have as much power as we are willing to give them.
Take back the control as hard as that is.
Don't feed it....hang onto reality really tightly now, use what you can see, touch, smell, feel...until the moment passes, & it will!

If you only learn one thing today it is this...
Your trigger isn't real. Your trigger isn't real. Your trigger isn't real! 

Peace & Love

Mental Health Awareness.

When you struggle with mental health sometimes sharing your story can be really helpful to others that can relate but I believe the focus should be on what you do to overcome these moments, how you actively achieve stability? What techniques you use? 

Those who have battled it and come out the other side know how important it is to take on the responsibility for your own mental health.

We should be emphasising & encouraging progress and change.
We all have a story to share but achieving the end result should be what we focus on the most; How to get to a better head space.

Please share your mental health stories but make them uplifting, empower and encourage others with your words.
Help build strength and resilience.
The mindset needs to change otherwise are we not all just feeding off one another's negativity? Playing into the illness that can consume us;
All that does is help the dark cloud that hangs above us to get bigger & bigger....when we should be trying to help ourselves grow.
The aim should be diminishing the black cloud not feeding it.

If someone's story inspires you...follow their lead, lift the darkness that surrounds you.
But you have to be an active and willing participant.
The only thing stopping you...is you!

Talk about how you feel and why, get it out, that is essential but listen to how others achieve recovery....think about it, be mindful, focus on what you can do, not what you think you can't.
Educate yourself and others, about your particular illness, build a good & reliable support network, and then find ways to deal with it.
This is one of the most important steps to recovery for any mental illness. You have to work at it!

Can we not give our support and sympathy as well as teach, listen & learn? Don't feed it. Acknowledge & validate someone’s feelings always but then ask them; what is something good they may have done for themselves today?
Then maybe make some suggestions.

I believe we give mental illness too much power over ourselves and we need to stop.
It's not easy, it doesn't happen overnight but building up resilience to anything is never a quick fix....this is no different.
Raising awareness & helping people live a normal life should include finding solutions.
Treat your mental illness like any other illness you may get stuck with, take responsibility for it, set up plan of action and tackle it head on!
Don't live your symptoms, combat them!

Contribute so that others can build their strength too!
The take away questions here are....what can I do for myself, what do I need to do to achieve it?
Make a list! 

That's what I want to see when I see things about raising awareness, that's what I want you to think about! 

This is what empowerment looks like...

A strong person doesn't need validation from others to feel worthy,
they only rely on themselves because.....
They already know what they're worth!

Don't undervalue the words of our older generations

When was the last time you had a good chat with an old/older person? 

A really in-depth discussion about life, theirs and yours? 

I get the feeling these days that young people just don't want to hear it and I get the feeling it's because they wouldn't want their behavior questioned or to feel judged?

(Judgement isn't always a negative thing and can help you reassess your lifestyle) 
I'm wondering if you feel like that, then perhaps you're not entirely comfortable with the choices you make after all? 

For all your free thinking ways these days you sure all seem scared of good old fashioned communication. 

To question or be questioned about something is often hard to face and it takes a level of maturity to cope with that rationally, to listen to the opinion of others calmly and to take on board what is being said and then think about it. 

I can tell you right now, old/older people do understand.  

They have been there, they have done that and most importantly, they have learnt!  

The situation and the times may change but the emotions we all feel are the same throughout each generation.  

So next time you are feeling low about something, love, life, friendships work etc maybe ask an older person, have you ever dealt with this?  

 There is often a lot to be learned by making your own mistakes but sometimes hurt, heartache or poor judgment can be prevent or lessened by listening to the opinion of others, others who have a bit more life experience. 
Is that really such a bad thing, to ask, to listen?  

You don't need to do what they say...just consider their words, advice is meant to be shared and thought on, the decision is always still yours, & no one is trying to take that away from you but maybe an attitude readjustment is in order?  A different way of seeing? 

Don't undervalue or discard the words of our older generations because without it we have no guidance.  

Too many of our older generation feel worthless so make them feel valuable because they are and the knowledge & wisdom they have gained through learning could very well be what you need to hear.

Maybe you'll even take something good from it away with you....

Suicide - Don't leave the world to soon

When a person chooses to take their own life, they take away so much more than that.


They don't think it will matter, they don't think they matter, so the decision may sometimes becomes less of a burden for them & an easier choice to make.
But for every person that thinks no one will care, there is someone. It may be someone close to you or it may be someone whose life you have touched at some point but there will be someone and in following through with your decision, you will affect their life irreversibly.
I know it's not a decision you've made lightly, I know you've thought about it a lot.
It's these thoughts that are a burden.
They can consume you. But it's not your only option.

The ones you leave behind will be left with that burden, the questions no one can ever answer.
They will be left with the consequences of dealing with someone else's actions.
You may think, sure they will be sad for a while but they'll get over it & forget about you soon enough.
I promise you, they won't. I won't lie to you, it will haunt them for the rest of their days.
They will learn to live with it, they will learn somehow to cope...but it will never, ever leave them.
Some days will be worse than others, some days will just be unbearable, but they will endure & they will try to live life as best they can because they know they must.
There is only one thing in this life that can't be changed & that is death.

 
Death comes to us all at some point but it's the living of life that makes a difference to the world to others, not our death.
Don't leave the world to soon, don't leave a trail of heartache behind you.
Leave your mark in a good way and don't leave your burdens behind for others to carry.
There is always someone there for you, always someone willing to help. Family, friends, strangers....someone!
You have to open up your heart, mind and eyes to living.
The responsibility is yours and yours alone.

 
Every day is an opportunity to make a new begging no matter what happened the day before.
You can change this irreversible decision before it becomes too late & you can find people to help you achieve the change you need to help you create new thought patterns but change always begins with you. I know, it's not easy.

I don't know you, you don't know me but I ask you to consider.....I want you to live.

Relationships

We should all aspire to this

This is lovely and gave me a smile. 😍
Real love is about compromise and team work 
Are you doing it right? 
There is no "I" or "me" only "Us" 
Together! 
I hope you have this or find it because there is nothing better. 

‪#‎love‬ ‪#‎loyalty‬ ‪#‎respect‬ ‪#‎trust‬ ‪#‎communication‬ ‪#‎commitment‬

Always reassess yourself.

Take note of your behavior and people's reactions to it.

Always question if you have a partner are you doing the right thing, do you treat them how they deserve?  

How do you treat your relationship. Do you respect it or take it for granted?  

Do you make others happy or do you not care about how others feel?  

How do you see & treat yourself?  

Self analysis is something we all should be doing from time to time & is a very important part of the growth process.